It’s pretty late at night as I’m writing this. This will, I guess, be one of my more relaxed posts where I just write what’s on my mind at the moment.
It’s been over two weeks since my husband has gone back up North for school. It’s been a year since we’ve gotten married and we are long distance while he’s away at school. I’ll go visit him sometimes, but for the most part, our marriage is long distance. You marry someone because you’ve found your other half, because they fill your life with love, laughter, and encouragement, and because they make you a better person. So not having them around can prove to be very difficult at times (not always, because of course you’re busy with your daily tasks).
Lately, I’ve been a bit down because I’ve been missing him quite a lot. It doesn’t take much to miss him- a show, a song, everything in our room. I’ll find myself thinking throughout the day, “Oh, he would really enjoy this video, or this dinner, or man he’s missing out on some precious family time.”
Personally, I believe that in a healthy marriage/relationship, missing someone is normal because of that deep rooted love for one another. I don’t need him by my side because of so called insecurities or because I’m needy; I just want him with me because I love to be around him. I’m the type that usually enjoys my alone time, but after getting married he’s become a part of my daily routine. So when he leaves for school, everything feels off balance. Maybe it would be easier if I were living my normal routine and around my friends back in NYC.
I know it sounds a bit cheesy- it’s even hard sleeping at night when he leaves. I have insomnia, and in a way he provides a form of peace when I’m with him. The small things during the day- waking up to him, joking around, making him breakfast, even fighting, I miss. Distance really, TRULY makes the heart grow fonder and in a confounding way, that’s the beauty of distance. Not only do you value the other person and your relationship more, you also have the will to MAKE every moment count when you’re with them.
When we’re together, I feel as if I try my best to make every minute count and every day special. Yet, when he leaves, I end up thinking, “Oh man, we could’ve done this, or we should’ve done that.” But maybe a fight will keep us from having a nice time, or the family (we live with his family) keeps us busy. So I’ve resolved that whenever I’m with him, I will make every minute count, I will put us first, and I will try to not let trivial things cause pointless fights. Haha, it’s easy to say that, especially when you’re missing someone. However, I will certainly try my best.
What gives me the strength to be away from him is that I know he’s working hard for our future and that he’s working hard because he’s dedicated his life to God. He’s taking his final exams right now, so please remember him in your prayers! Thank you. (:
I’ll hopefully see him again in 3-4 weeks, so I’m excited for that day. Till then my patience will grow and my passions, hobbies, and family will keep me busy.
What do you guys think? Do you think that distance really makes the heart grow fonder? Make sure to leave your thoughts in the comment section!